From Where I'm Standing Now – Self Confidence

I think we all have plenty of opportunities to stop for a moment and ponder where we are in life right now. So many times, for me at least, I didn’t want to know. I don’t want to look at where I am, where I could be, and how I was either moving away from that point or just not moving at all. So I didn’t think about it. That’s one sure way to never get where you want to go. Maybe it’s a guy thing – like not wanting to look at a map or ask for directions – but I think it’s probably rather universal to the human condition, at least to the human condition left to it’s own. I am seeing God open up doors in my life into rooms that I otherwise would be afraid to enter because of the mess I might find inside, but with his help and assurance, I can enter them, clean house, and then possibly even invite a guest in to share the experience with me in a useful way. God truly can use the worst or dirtiest experiences or parts of our lives for His greatest glory.

I’m continuing that journey of standing on the mountaintop and looking around to see where I’ve been, how I got here, and where I’m going. Or maybe it’s not a mountaintop. Maybe it’s a hill. Ok… let’s be honest. Maybe I’m just stepping up on a dirt clod in some cases. But my head is above water, I can look around for a minute, and this is good.

My growth up to this point in terms of SELF CONFIDENCE

Much of this I’m sure is related to my growth up to this point in terms of Self Image. How can one be confident in one’s self if one does not know who one’s self is? I have gone for the majority of my life believing lies and only half-accepting truths. As I continue to grow to believe that I do have value and that I am a full fledged adopted son of The King, my confidence in myself grows as well. I still struggle with being comfortable in my own skin (literally at times), but I’m much more aware of that battle, which makes it more of a fight than a struggle, if that word differentiation means anything.

Take this last week for example. I made a mistake in the “sales process” with a new customer and wound up billing them for something we hadn’t fully discussed. They caught it, and confronted me about it through a polite email. In the past, I would have either (1) launched into an explanation as to why the cost was justified and how it was a part of doing business with me or (2 – more probable) just told them to ignore it and let it go. This time I did neither of those two. I instead scheduled a meeting to review the issue. As we sat down, we went back to “the list” of what I had originally proposed we do, and saw that we were making significant progress on it. My client was not in fact mad at me… they are overjoyed at the work we’re doing. When it came to the invoiced item in question, their problem with it was first of all that we hadn’t discussed it, and second of all that they didn’t feel they wanted that service. Again, I could have backed down, tucked my tail between my legs, and “lived to fight another day,” probably through a defensive email.

Instead I pushed on… “Ok,” I said, “I see your point. But I have to do something. This is part of what I consider taking care of your business and it’s a way that I ‘cover the cost’ of some of the tools we purchase to even be available to service you. What can we do?” The discussion continued. Eventually, I blurted out something like, “Well, the going rate for this service on a purely hourly basis is $___ an hour.” ($30 an hour more than I was currently working for) The next words shocked me.

“Let’s do that. I’m totally fine with that… Your customers want options,” she told me. I may think that the best way to do something is this way, but that may not (and will not) work for every customer. Just because that doesn’t work doesn’t mean I need to give up. I can press on, ask the hard question, get the customer involved in answering the problem. And I did it! I now have a client who doesn’t pay me a little service fee each month to cover my cost but instead covers my costs through a higher hourly rate. Everyone is happy, content, and feels they have been heard and their issues addressed.

That is a very specific place where I see my self confidence growing. Before, I would not have pushed through that door. I would have considered it shut and locked, when in fact the customer just had her foot against it, preventing me from breaking and entering without first asking permission. I used the things I’ve been learning, put them to action, and wound up right where I needed to be.

This self-confidence thing applies to many other areas of life. I’ve seen it dramatically influencing what I’m willing to talk about via email versus phone or in person discussions. I’ve used emails and written words too often to try to avoid direct confrontation, and something always gets lost in translation.

I took a personality test as part of my coaching process. My greatest strength, it said, was listening. Along with that strength came character qualities such as passive, not liking change that isn’t well supported, and so on. Those are not qualities I thought I admired about myself, but as I see that they aren’t necessarily bad, when combined with a life lived on purpose that doesn’t just “stop living” when things get hard, I see that they truly are strengths and not signs of weakness. I am interested to see if things change should I re-take that test at some later date, but I value knowing that listening is a quality I’m good at; it not only affirms my value, but it gives me something to relish doing when given the opportunity.

So all that said, my self confidence is on the rise. As is my need for a basis for that self confidence. I am confident in myself because I am created with value, because I have something to offer, and because people enjoy my company. I need not be afraid of being talked down, discouraged, or even told “no.” Those words do not determine or change my value; they give me opportunities to better myself, to examine weaknesses and make them strengths, and to boldly go where no Chet Cromer has gone before. I’m loving it.

But it sure isn’t easy. 🙂

But as David said in the Bible…

The Lord is with me, I will not be afraid;
What can mere mortals do to me?
The Lord is with me, He is my helper;
I look in triumph on my enemies.

My enemies are not often specific people. They are rather attitudes such as despair, loneliness, doubt, disappointment, and isolation. I think they still fit in this passage.. what can they do to me? What power do they have over me? Only that which I have given them, and I’m proud to say I am taking back lost ground.

From Where I'm Standing Now – Self Image

One of my assignments this week is to “describe my growth up to this point in terms of” 8 different areas of life. As I look at these topics, I’m looking forward to what I get to write down. I have not gotten to where I want to be in all (any?) of these categories, but I can actually say I’m able to stand up, look around, and give myself an honest look, finding both places I’ve grown and places I’ve still got room to grow.

So here we goooooo……

My growth up to this point in terms of SELF IMAGE

I see so much that has changed, and so much that is still the same, when I look at my image of myself. On one side, I’ve finally began to enact the believe that “I have worth.” For the last several years, even before my coaching experience, I have begun to better understand the reality that I am a child of the King, a full fledged, adopted son to the Creator of heaven and earth. But during the past several months, it’s like I’ve heard God telling me, “Then Act Like It. Act like you are who I tell you you are.” What’s that look like? What’s changed? Where have I grown?

I’m not a disappointment. In fact, I’m a success! In my family, my church, my business, and many other areas of my life, I provide something of worth. I add value to other people’s (and even organization’s) lives. The things I do are worth their investment – time, money, commitment. I don’t need to feel that I must only charge enough to provide a decent living. I can even see myself growing my business instead of just surviving this massive changes I’m going through right now.

I am beginning to truly enjoy the “running the business” side of running my business. In the past, I don’t know if I didn’t feel that I had what it takes or if I just didn’t really feel it was right for me to build a growing and decently profitable business. I think perhaps I was raised to believe, and then in turn believed myself, that every dollar I earn must be hard-earned. Must be fought for. Like I had to “prove” my value by the manual effort I put into something, instead of the results or value it produced. I would have seen myself as that guy who could charge $1,000 for pushing a button because he’s the only guy who know what button to push. But I’m finding now, that I do have that kind of value. Maybe not just for button pushing, but for things I am uniquely created for and gifted in… I have value. And I believe it. And as I look into these other growth things I think that will come through to me even more.

I still struggle here. I still have a huge weak spot for feeling like I’m a disappointment. I still read into people’s words (especially non-verbal) and actions. I told a friend of mine earlier this week that I was going to stop analyzing everything they said and just believe them. I need to do that. I don’t need to lower my image of myself just because something rubs me wrong. If it’s an insult against me, fine, I can either retaliate, ignore it, or take it in stride and move on. It doesn’t have to ruin my day or cause me to fire back my own words or thoughts defending myself or fighting back.

I.

  Have.

    Value.

That is where I’ve grown the most in this idea of self image. I AM something valuable, I HAVE something valuable to offer, and whether or not people can see that in me, doesn’t change it.

This is affecting several areas of my life, including the way I talk, the way I seek out in-person meetings instead of hiding behind emails, the way I want to improve my health and body composition whilst at the same time being content with my own skin, and even the ability to just let some things go. It is so freeing.

One of "My" Glimpses of the Bigger Picture

This past Sunday I was reminded about the reality of the bigger picture, even the “more real” world that The Matrix gave us a great picture of, although it was quite allegorical. Much of my world is nice and neat, surrounded by what I would imagine are God-fearing and God-honoring people. If I want to really reach out into the hearts of teenage kids, I need to go hunting for them outside my church doors, right? I mean, these guys and girls are doing fine, doing great, and loving and worshipping God at any chance they get… right?

Right?

Wrong.

Dead wrong. And I should know better. I’ve seen how “hurt” a heart can get by just putting a mirror on my own. Not just hurt by mean people, but hurt by my own false impression of myself, of God, and my picture of what others think. Even if it’s totally false, I still bought into it. How much more so the young men and young women I’m getting to know better and better. While it’s not a mid-life-crisis as we often think of it, it certainly is a crisis, at least according to the definition Google gives me: “an unstable situation of extreme danger or difficulty.” How many kids get lost in the high school years? Lose their way? Lose respect for (or of) their parents? Lose hope? Lose confidence in themselves? It’s all over the place, and I saw a glimpse of it this Sunday.

I grabbed a whiteboard this past Sunday as I taught Sunday School and asked the kids three questions. We were wrapping up a video series called Gospel Journey: Maui. It was an attempt at a reality series where they brought a group of several open-minded people together from different faiths and talked openly and honestly about faith, God, and life. It was actually pretty good, if I say so myself. I especially learned a lot from Jasser, the Islamic guy, who had a great respect for his god, and while my faith, beliefs, and God tell me he’s headed in the wrong direction, this boy was utterly sincere, and it shone through.

So at the end of the series, I asked our kids three questions, and had them write their answers, completely anonymously, on a sheet of paper I then collected and transferred to the whiteboard. The questions:

  • How would you describe Jesus (in a word)?
  • How would you describe Jesus’ message?
  • How would Jesus describe you.

The answers tell a story that I knew was real, but was suprised to get out of these guys at 9:00 AM on a Sunday morning. Check it out below:

 

 

All sorts of great things about Jesus, right (I added the “offensive” and “divisive” words about his message later on). High words. Lofty words. True words. But look at the words they used to describe how these kids feel Jesus (God) feels about them:

  • Fallible
  • Super
  • Pitiful
  • Lacking
  • Princess
  • Ignorant
  • A Child
  • Genuine
  • Wayward
  • I’ve never talked to him about it.

For the first time ever, I could hold something up in front of these guys and authoritatively say, “Look around you! You don’t have to go hunting broken hearts. You don’t have to go searching for someone who needs to know the Jesus you have, or the Jesus you want to have! They’re right here!” I know these kids, and I could probably pick certain people to go with certain words, but then again, I might be totally off base, as they might with me. We hide things so well, and it appears that we do so at a very early age. Many of the kids in this group have grown up in this church, and here they are, 15, 16, 17, 18 years old, feeling that God thinks they’re pitiful, ignorant, and lacking.

Let’s get real, because this is real. This is the most honest set of words I’ve ever gotten had them give me, and I choose to accept it, and let it change me. I’m not going to pretend like everybody’s alright. I’ll accept that from them if they tell me, but just like me, there’s always more to the story. And I can do something about that. I can care for them. I can pray for them. I can let them know absolutely, without a doubt, at least one person believes in them, and so does their Heavenly Father. We all have earthly parents that fail us in one way or another, and I think we wind up attributing that to our Heavenly Parent, and then suddenly he’s looking down on us, disappointed in us, and unwilling to ask us to do big things.

I totally get that. Because that was much of my own life. I now know my Heavenly Father AS my True Father. My earthly father introduced me to him in his own way, and I appreciate that beyond words. But until we realize that that’s not all there is in the God that really loves us, we’ll be bound up in these words.

I truly loved this lesson. It opened my eyes, and the anonymity and randomness of the mixed up answers made it even more impressive to me that the fields truly are white for the harvest. I don’t even have to walk out the door to my “back yard” (the Plainfield High School is literally in our church’s back yard). They’re here, waiting, wanting, and fearfully wondering if there really is more out there than life is promising them.

Let’s show them that there is. THERE IS LIFE. FREEDOM. And JOY.

Tournament of Champions

 

Purpose

This tournament takes the champion from each category and pits them against each other.

Round 1

1.       Develop my own personal response to “how are you,” that while genuine, is not as shallow as “fine.” Also consider the answer to this question each morning, affirming how I am, who I am, and what I am here for. (SOCIAL)

2.       Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing. (SPIRITUAL)

Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing. (SPIRITUAL)

3.       Get pop out of my life. (PHYSICAL)

4.       Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals. (ORGANIZATIONAL)

Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals. (ORGANIZATIONAL)

5.       Make time each week to have an adult conversation with my wife and talk about what is important to us. (MENTAL)

6.       Learn how to fly an R/C airplane (OTHER)

Make time each week to have an adult conversation with my wife and talk about what is important to us. (MENTAL)

7.       Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau (MATERIAL)

8.       Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R. G. LeTourneau (FINANCIAL)

Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau (MATERIAL)

9.       Plan a week in 2011 to go somewhere new. Put in the calendar, and plan for it as a goal (FAMILY)

10.   Plan ahead for business finances: Create a dream and bare-minimum budget for C2IT starting from the point I’m at now and out for the next 12 months. (CAREER)

Plan ahead for business finances: Create a dream and bare-minimum budget for C2IT starting from the point I’m at now and out for the next 12 months. (CAREER)

Round 2

1.       Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing. (SPIRITUAL)

2.       Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals. (ORGANIZATIONAL)

Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing. (SPIRITUAL)

3.       Make time each week to have an adult conversation with my wife and talk about what is important to us. (MENTAL)

4.       Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau (MATERIAL)

Make time each week to have an adult conversation with my wife and talk about what is important to us. (MENTAL)

5.       Plan ahead for business finances: Create a dream and bare-minimum budget for C2IT starting from the point I’m at now and out for the next 12 months. (CAREER)

Plan ahead for business finances: Create a dream and bare-minimum budget for C2IT starting from the point I’m at now and out for the next 12 months. (CAREER) (BYE)

Round 3

1.       Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing. (SPIRITUAL)

Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing. (SPIRITUAL)

2.       Make time each week to have an adult conversation with my wife and talk about what is important to us. (MENTAL)

3.       Plan ahead for business finances: Create a dream and bare-minimum budget for C2IT starting from the point I’m at now and out for the next 12 months. (CAREER) (BYE)

Make time each week to have an adult conversation with my wife and talk about what is important to us. (MENTAL)

Final Round

1.       Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing. (SPIRITUAL)

2.       Make time each week to have an adult conversation with my wife and talk about what is important to us. (MENTAL)

Make time each week to have an adult conversation with my wife and talk about what is important to us. (MENTAL)

Overall, this was definitely much harder to choose between options than the other rounds. Everything listed here is important to me. They already survived the first round of scrutinization as I looked at them by category.

When it comes down to it, what’s most important to me now seems to be building into my wife’s life, and building into my own. Perhaps that’s because I’ve spent so much time working this business over the past few months that while it still excites and drives me, I feel a lacking in those other areas. It may change over time, but for now, these guys win the battle.

Tournament of Wants – Organizational

Purpose

The purpose of this exercise is to look through all the wants, desires, and dreams I have listed related to ORGANIZATIONAL GOALS and find out “Which one is most important to me now?” That is the ONLY question I am to consider. Not “I have to do this first” or “I’ll want this in 10 years…” “Which one is most important to me now?” That’s it. Each round will take two wants and get a winner, and then those winners will face off, and so on until there is only one thing. Let’s see where this goes.

Round 1

1.       Develop better methods to “leave work at work,” both during the week and on vacation. (Family Life Development)

2.       Develop lists of core beliefs and understandings: Make a list of personal beliefs that are non-negotiable, and develop a written understanding of each. Develop into a list of personal and business values. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

Develop lists of core beliefs and understandings: Make a list of personal beliefs that are non-negotiable, and develop a written understanding of each. Develop into a list of personal and business values.

3.       Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals. (Family Life Development)

4.       Get up early every day (5:00?) to make the most of the early morning hours (9/22/10)

Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals.

5.       Identify and implement a project-based method of finishing tasks that works for both personal and business areas of my life (Mental Development)

Identify and implement a project-based method of finishing tasks that works for both personal and business areas of my life (BYE)

6.       Learn to remember people’s names quickly. (7/23/10)

7.       Plan our future together with my family – short and long term. (Family Life Development)

Learn to remember people’s names quickly.

8.       Retain what I’ve learned: Blog or journal a small summary from each day, before the day is gone forever.

9.       Spend one hour a day, Monday – Friday, on my sales action plan or self improvement. Listen and read to self improvement books / audio at least 5-6 times a week. (Mental Development)

Retain what I’ve learned: Blog or journal a small summary from each day, before the day is gone forever.

Round 2

1.       Develop lists of core beliefs and understandings: Make a list of personal beliefs that are non-negotiable, and develop a written understanding of each. Develop into a list of personal and business values.

2.       Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals.

Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals.

3.       Identify and implement a project-based method of finishing tasks that works for both personal and business areas of my life (BYE)

4.       Learn to remember people’s names quickly.

Identify and implement a project-based method of finishing tasks that works for both personal and business areas of my life

5.       Retain what I’ve learned: Blog or journal a small summary from each day, before the day is gone forever.

Retain what I’ve learned: Blog or journal a small summary from each day, before the day is gone forever.

Round 3

6.       Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals.

Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals. (BYE)

7.       Identify and implement a project-based method of finishing tasks that works for both personal and business areas of my life

8.       Retain what I’ve learned: Blog or journal a small summary from each day, before the day is gone forever. (BYE)

Retain what I’ve learned: Blog or journal a small summary from each day, before the day is gone forever

 

Round 4

1.       Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals. (BYE)

2.       Retain what I’ve learned: Blog or journal a small summary from each day, before the day is gone forever

Establish a monthly meeting with my wife to set up our budget, our calendar, and monthly goals.

 

Tournament of Wants – Material

 

Purpose

The purpose of this exercise is to look through all the wants, desires, and dreams I have listed related to MATERIAL GAINS and find out “Which one is most important to me now?” That is the ONLY question I am to consider. Not “I have to do this first” or “I’ll want this in 10 years…” “Which one is most important to me now?” That’s it. Each round will take two wants and get a winner, and then those winners will face off, and so on until there is only one thing. Let’s see where this goes.

Round 1

1.       Be completely debt free (7/21/10)

2.       Buy a new tractor, complete with attachments (9/9/10)

Be completely debt free

3.       Buy a working farm (7/17/10)

4.       Buy lower level season tickets to the Indianapolis Colts (9/9/10)

Buy a working farm

5.       Buy someone else a house (7/18/10)

6.       Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau (Financial /Career Development)

Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau

Round 2

1.       Be completely debt free

2.       Buy a working farm

Be completely debt free

3.       Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau

Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau (BYE)

Final Round

1.       Be completely debt free

2.       Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau (BYE)

Give away an increasing proportion of my income: Read the biography of R.G. LeTourneau

Tournament of Wants – Spiritual

Purpose

The purpose of this exercise is to look through all the wants, desires, and dreams I have listed related to MY SPIRITUAL LIFE and find out “Which one is most important to me now?” That is the ONLY question I am to consider. Not “I have to do this first” or “I’ll want this in 10 years…” “Which one is most important to me now?” That’s it. Each round will take two wants and get a winner, and then those winners will face off, and so on until there is only one thing. Let’s see where this goes.

Round 1

1.       After becoming leader of an area in a church or organization, develop a leadership team that does the work of leading… TOGETHER. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

2.       Be invited to the leadership or board of an influential ministry (8/3/10)

After becoming leader of an area in a church or organization, develop a leadership team that does the work of leading… TOGETHER.

3.       Be known as a man of honesty, integrity, and confidentiality to a point that I am sought out by and approachable to others. (7/23/10)

4.       Become a youth pastor or leader in a local church. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

Be known as a man of honesty, integrity, and confidentiality to a point that I am sought out by and approachable to others.

5.       Become effective at developing leadership teams (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

6.       Create a once or twice a year youth outing / retreat with reflection, teambuilding, and the “big picture” story (9/9/10)

Create a once or twice a year youth outing / retreat with reflection, teambuilding, and the “big picture” story

7.       Develop a solution for a ministry that is core to their operation. (8/3/10)

8.       Develop leadership skills: Continue coaching experience past initial sales / personal life focus. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

Develop leadership skills: Continue coaching experience past initial sales / personal life focus.

9.       Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

10.   Give an ever-increasing percentage of my income to church, ministries, and charities. (7/17/10)

Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

11.   Help someone else plant a church (9/9/10)

Help someone else plant a church (BYE)

12.   Help someone else share THEIR story in front of an auditorium full of people (8/17/10)

13.   Lead 100 people to know Jesus (7/17/10)

Help someone else share THEIR story in front of an auditorium full of people

14.   Lead an event for teens “into the wild” with horses, camping, life lessons, and spiritual discovery (7/16/10)

15.   Lead an overseas missions trip (7/17/10)

Lead an event for teens “into the wild” with horses, camping, life lessons, and spiritual discovery

16.   Lead and serve in an area I am passionate about (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

17.   Let someone develop ME. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

Let someone develop ME.

18.   Never look at pornography again, and develop a habit of bouncing my eyes and impure thoughts (7/23/10)

19.   Open an after-school coffee shop to serve teens and provide adults a place to mentor them. (7/16/10)

Never look at pornography again, and develop a habit of bouncing my eyes and impure thoughts

20.   Participate in my children’s baptisms (7/17/10)

21.   Plant a church (9/9/10)

Participate in my children’s baptisms

22.   Pray with 1000 people (7/19/10)

23.   Provide counsel as a regular part of my day – teens, men, couples. Perhaps even as a professional “side job.” (9/9/10)

Pray with 1000 people

24.   Read a book on leadership of some sense each quarter. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

25.   See each of my children come to know Jesus. (7/17/10)

Read a book on leadership of some sense each quarter.

26.   Serve in non-spiritual areas outside of my church: Expand mentoring ministry from local church to local school. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

27.   Start a not-for-profit company to mentor and care for rural and suburban teens (8/9/10)

Serve in non-spiritual areas outside of my church: Expand mentoring ministry from local church to local school.

28.   Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools. (Ethics and Beliefs Development)

29.   Write a 1 year devotional book (7/18/10)

Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools.

Round 2

1.       After becoming leader of an area in a church or organization, develop a leadership team that does the work of leading… TOGETHER.

2.       Be known as a man of honesty, integrity, and confidentiality to a point that I am sought out by and approachable to others.

Be known as a man of honesty, integrity, and confidentiality to a point that I am sought out by and approachable to others.

3.       Create a once or twice a year youth outing / retreat with reflection, teambuilding, and the “big picture” story

4.       Develop leadership skills: Continue coaching experience past initial sales / personal life focus.

Develop leadership skills: Continue coaching experience past initial sales / personal life focus.

5.       Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

6.       Help someone else plant a church (BYE)

Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

7.       Help someone else share THEIR story in front of an auditorium full of people

Help someone else share THEIR story in front of an auditorium full of people (BYE)

8.       Lead an event for teens “into the wild” with horses, camping, life lessons, and spiritual discovery

9.       Let someone develop ME.

Let someone develop ME.

10.   Never look at pornography again, and develop a habit of bouncing my eyes and impure thoughts

11.   Participate in my children’s baptisms

Participate in my children’s baptisms

12.   Pray with 1000 people

13.   Read a book on leadership of some sense each quarter.

Pray with 1000 people

14.   Serve in non-spiritual areas outside of my church: Expand mentoring ministry from local church to local school.

15.   Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools.

Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools.

Round 3

1.       Be known as a man of honesty, integrity, and confidentiality to a point that I am sought out by and approachable to others.

2.       Develop leadership skills: Continue coaching experience past initial sales / personal life focus.

Be known as a man of honesty, integrity, and confidentiality to a point that I am sought out by and approachable to others.

3.       Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

4.       Help someone else share THEIR story in front of an auditorium full of people (BYE)

Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

5.       Let someone develop ME.

6.       Participate in my children’s baptisms

Let someone develop ME.

7.       Pray with 1000 people

8.       Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools.

Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools.

Round 4

1.       Be known as a man of honesty, integrity, and confidentiality to a point that I am sought out by and approachable to others.

2.       Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

3.       Let someone develop ME.

4.       Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools.

Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools.

Final Round

·         Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

·         Start, or find and participate in, a mentoring ministry for kids at my church and in local schools.

Establish a mentor relationship with Steve Pierce and meet with him on regular basis for prayer, advice, and simple sharing.

I know exactly why I’m putting this one off.